The IVF Guide for A Gay Family:
A family, is a family, is a family. However, when you’re two dads trying to conceive, there are some additional protocols and steps you can take to ensure a smooth and seamless journey. There are also a few things to consider when starting your journey that can help you manage expectations while ultimately fulfilling your dreams of having a child.
A gay family is founded by two gay men or women that want to have a family. But what makes your journey different and where should you begin? Do you need PGS testing and how many embryos can you expect?
Do you want one child, or two? Will the eggs be split between two dads? Is it better to do a singleton journey or try for twins? Here’s the ultimate guide for the gay family:
Decisions for Dads
Okay, so you want more than one kid! This is not only attainable, this is a wonderful thing for a gay family. However, in a process that can be costly it’s important you take the right course. Your first major decision after you’ve chosen a clinic, an egg donor and a surrogate is how you want to handle the eggs you retrieve.
Hopefully, there’s an ample amount of eggs from your egg donor for your gay family. If you would each like a biological child, then the eggs will need to be split between you. This will lessen the number of viable embryos you have, but hopefully, there is 1-2 for each father. If you’re lucky, there will be more!
Deciding how to split the eggs based on sperm count and other factors can be decided upon with help from your IVF doctor.
Twins sound like a great idea. Knocking the journey out and bringing two sweet newborns into your home from one single surrogate journey would be ideal. However, there are a few things to consider here.
Depending on the number of embryos that come to maturation, putting two embryos in the womb together might not be a great idea. If one father only has one or two embryos, then placing one in with an embryo from the other father will lessen its chances of survival. This might leave your frustrated with just one embryo left for said father.
Depending on your embryo count, you should consider doing a singleton journey. If you’re concerned it’s going to be much more expensive, there are a few other scenarios to think about. If you do have twins and they both take, the chances of them being born early and spending ample time in the NICU will also be a major additional cost.
It’s hard to decide how to go about things as two gay fathers. At Pacific Fertility Center, we are here to help you on your journey and assist you in making decisions that will bless you and your gay family for years to come.
PGS testing is a great medical advancement that will ensure we are placing the healthiest embryos in your surrogate. Is it an additional cost? Yes. However, this will help us put our best foot forward in helping you bring a child into the word.
PGS testing will help us get a read on the embryos as to if they are normal or not. We can also see what sex the embryos are, which is helpful if you are hoping for a certain sex in a child.PGS testing is highly recommended and can help you avoid substantial disappointment.
Leave the Rest to The Best
Finding a doctor who has your best interest, great success rates, and great reviews will help you eliminate major challenges of your journey. Finding an IVF doctor who is on the forefront of IVF advancements and technology will greatly assist in your journey.
When you’re ready to begin the process of extending your gay family, contact us today for a consult.